Most of the time I strongly believe that if I want something, I will have to make my way to it and work hard to reach it.
It’s not going to be served on a plate.
I truly have the feeling that “we have the power to shape our reality”, as says Joe Dispenza in his book: Breaking the habit of being yourself.
But when along the way I am facing challenges, I realize that it is easy to lose sight of how to do so. And I am certainly not the only one.
With the time, we figure out that some things might not work out, no matter how hard we try, and we might reconsider what could be wrong, change our focus and try other things, yet expecting nonetheless inside ourselves that if these things are meant to happen, they will.
Here, an underestimated virtue comes into place: patience.
Patience, the “capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious”, according to the Oxford Language Dictionary.
But patience doesn’t impede proactiveness.
There is a balance to be found between the two. In other words, being patient is not an excuse for laziness.
Often, life doesn’t go according to plans. But what about allowing ourselves some time? Some time to reflect on them and contemplate. This without feeling guilty, a challenge in a society that favors speed over pauses. To make it easier to achieve this, here are some suggestions:
- Live according to your beliefs.
- Be clear about your values.
- List and prioritize the goals you want to achieve.
- Establish life rules that you can control.
So, I would recommend starting from there. Starting from you.
“Without understanding how feelings, thoughts, and behaviors work together, it’s almost impossible to find our way back to ourselves and each other”, says Brenee Brown in her book: Atlas of the heart.
Energy, focus, and action: Driving your energy in the one direction you are looking at and taking specific moves towards it will lead you to reach your goal.
Nietzsche’s entire philosophy is based on the conviction that the only reality we can know is the one we see around us – the tumultuous and continually changing world of our experience. It’s a good starting point to remember it’s up to us to shape our reality and change our world.
By doing so, we also start giving sense to the only reality we know – the one around us, that Nietzsche describes as “the tumultuous and continually changing world of our experience”.